When wedding planning, trying to stay within your set budget is one of the hardest parts. There always seems to be one more thing that comes up or that you want to add. One of the most expensive parts of your wedding day planning that affects almost all categories related to costs is your wedding guest list. The number of guests you invite directly impacts the size of the venue you’ll need, the plus ones that attend essentially doubling your list, the number of invitations you have to send out, stamps for the postage, tables, chairs, place settings, food, alcohol, wedding favors, and tons more. Aside from the direct monetary costs, there’s also the management aspects of dealing with all the guests, not just on the wedding day itself, but also the list, RSVPs, ect.
From surveying our current and past clients, the second hardest part of wedding planning is actually creating the guest list itself. Once you announce your engagement, you’ll likely get contacted by everyone including the relative you aren’t close with, your boss, coworkers, and friends you haven’t heard from in a long while congratulating you, and expressing their interest in attending your wedding. It’s so easy to to just keep adding people and before you know it, you look down, and the list is longer than Santa’s Naughty or Nice List!
Of course you don’t want to contact everyone you are not inviting to let them know they didn’t make the cut, but if they ask, here are a few ways to tell people they are not invited in a loving way and save yourself a ton of money in the process.
HAVE A DESTINATION WEDDING
This is probably the easiest way to avoid dealing with a ton of wedding guests altogether. You can invite just your closest family and friends and have a badass destination wedding anywhere you’ve ever dreamed of. You can choose to pay for them to join you, have them pay, or a combination of both. Considering the average wedding cost in the U.S. is currently about $27,000, a destination wedding often is a TON cheaper than actually having a local wedding. Check out our post on 10 Reasons To Have A Destination Wedding and see if a destination wedding is right for you.
BLAME IT ON THE BUDGET
A great way to let people know they are not invited is to blame it on the budget. Let them know, although you would love to have them join you, your wedding has become more expensive than you anticipated, and you simply don’t have the room in your budget to invite anymore guests.
BLAME IT ON THE VENUE
Many venues have a limited amount of space and number of people that can legally fit in that space due to fire codes. Even if yours doesn’t, you can still blame it on the venue. Let them know your venue has a cap on the number of guests you are allowed to have and that your list is taken up by your wedding party and family.
KEEP IT INTIMATE
Even if you aren’t having a super intimate wedding, you could always use intimacy as the reason for not inviting someone. This may or may not be a little white lie, but it’s probably better than just telling someone you don’t like them or don’t want them at your wedding. Just let them know that you are planning an intimate wedding and that many of your family and friends won’t be able to attend.My name is Matt Druin and I’m an Atlanta wedding photographer that specializes in unique, offbeat weddings for all awesome people! Not only do I shoot amazing Atlanta weddings, but I also travel frequently for destination weddings, and weddings all over, with no travel fees in the US for amazing wedding photography. I also shoot Atlanta engagement sessions for newly engaged couples. I’ve even been known to travel, and far, for engagement sessions too!
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